Rodolfo Costa said, “Erase self-doubt by working to build your strengths instead of focusing on your weaknesses.”
It is easier to quit than to succeed. It is easier to give up than to push yourself to the limit. That is why self-doubt becomes a nasty part of life. When you take a chance, you open yourself up to failure. Perseverance is contrary to our hidden desires.
That said, it is not uncommon for self-doubt to rear its ugly head. It can actually be healthy if you look at it critically. Your will is tested, and you learn
whether your goal fits into your overall values. In order to accomplish anything, you must learn to manage self-doubt.
10 Ways to Manage Self-Doubt
1. Recognize it
How can you overcome something that you don’t acknowledge? Look for patterns in your behavior. Where did doubt become an issue? Create a plan to counteract it for the next time.
2. Do something
It stands to reason that if you want a change, you’ll need to act. Self-doubt is only temporary. You may regret listening to it later. So instead listen to the voice that’s telling you to overcome. And don’t let that voice down! Don’t be afraid to ask for help when you need it.
3. Trust things will work out
Trust does not mean that you know things will develop according to your expectations. Trust is to understand that things will work out how they are supposed to.
You must believe that your doubting is only temporary. Even if you fail, take away a lesson from the experience. If you apply what you learned, then you didn’t fail at all!
4. Choose your friends wisely
There’s an old saying to the effect of, “You are the company you keep.” Your friends are your support system. If they don’t support you, then they aren’t your real friends. Get rid of all the doubters from your inner-circle. They are doing you no good. Research shows that the brain changes its course even after a 20-minute conversation. Let that change be in a positive direction.
5. Stop talking about your goals
Some studies show that you are more likely to strive to accomplish your goal once you make it known to those around you. That is because they will check you and wonder of your progress. That said, speaking of your goals can make you less likely to strive for them. That is because you put them into the dream phase and took them out of the reality phase. Make your goals something tangible, not a filler for conversation.
Your mind may actually be to blame for this. When you tell others about your goals, more often then not, they will provide positive feedback. The signals may get crossed here. Your mind may confuse this feedback with the sensation of the real accomplishment. This makes it less likely for you to move forward.
6. Anticipate challenges
You must know what lies before you before moving forward. If challenges surprise you, this may open new doors for self-doubting. Prepare yourself, and know that the road ahead is filled with hurdles. If it wasn’t, everybody would accomplish everything. Do you want to be a failure or a success. Plan for the worst, expect the best.
7. Stop seeking approvals
What good is doing anything if you can’t speak about it? The sad reality, however, is that most of the people you speak with have no idea what makes for good advice. Sometimes they speak only to not appear rude. Don’t destroy your chances with bad advice.
Also, you may hear different advice from every person you speak to. This will confuse you and make it seem like the goal is that much farther away from you. Ask for help, but don’t act just to hear praise from others.
8. Be self-compassionate
How can you love another if you don’t love yourself? If you are kind to yourself, the chances for living a happy life become more positive.
Nobody’s perfect, not even you. Don’t take it to heart. Understand that you will fail and you will make mistakes. Don’t let them hold you back. Learn from them and keep moving forward!
9. Stop making excuses
Doubt is another way of justifying failure. You don’t want to feed this hungry beast. Limit the power of your doubts by cutting out the excuses. It happened, now move on from it. Don’t let it happen again.
This may be the most obvious bit of advice. Breathing is a natural reaction that will occur whether you think about it or not. Yet, a routine of deep breathing can be truly powerful. If things get hard, take a break. Take a deep breath through the nose, hold it in, and release. Repeat. You’ll find yourself more relaxed and prepared for what comes next. This deep breathing will help you to rid all the negativity from your psyche.
Everybody is different. What works for you might not work for another. Find the best way to overcome, and stick to it. Let your self-doubt become something that helps you to be a better person, not something that keeps you in the shadows.
Consider the following quote from Vincent Van Gogh: “If you hear a voice within you say you cannot paint, then by all means paint and that voice will be silenced.”